There are two entities that I introduce you to today. A friend. And me.
Actually, it goes like this. A friend wanted to put up a 100th on her blog and asked for audience participation in the form of questions. I – like the wonderful nutcase that I am – asked her things about us. Of course that turned out to be not-so-bright an idea since the rest of the world doesn’t exactly know me and my history with her!
But by then, the idea seemed really good! So instead, I sent across fresh non-topical questions for the 100th anniversary post AND a bunch of questions for her to answer to do as a guest post here! So now what you have coming up, is an introduction to the authoress and her take on me!
She’s born half a day ahead of me – literally. She’s witty and quippy. She’s glamorous and so together. She’s elegant, poised and a very successful career-woman. She’s a child when it comes to enjoying the simple pleasures of food, family and friends. She’s taught me, laughed with me, partied with me and seen me grow up. I – in turn – have watched her come out of a relatively cocooned life to watch the world with honest eyes and accept with grace the fact that life deals different cards to different people. She is one of the treasures I cherish and is a mirror to my life – as clean as they come. Here’s her take on me.
Q.Why do you think you and I have lasted over so many years?
A. You mean apart from the fact that we have diametrically opposite tastes in men? LOL. Come to think of it, we have always been fiercely individualistic and still managed to be great friends. I guess one half of the trick is being honest about our opinions, likes and dislikes. And as ‘beauty-pageant-final-answer-type’ as it may sound, the other half is the inherent respect we have for each other. Of course being born on the exact same day must mean that somewhere deep down we’re not that different.
Q. What’s the favourite memory you have of any time we have spent together and why?
A. Hands down the silly NDA Ball we went for back in the day. Hell I still remember how excited we were about it and how minutely we planned the whole thing, down to the bloody makeup. Don’t think I will ever forget how my date freaked me out and yours won the title of Mr. NDA. The Cinderella treatment was a whole other issue! Remember that crazy girl we befriended in the bus, the one that later absconded with a rather cute cadet? God that was an awesome (and crazy) night!
Q. What’s the one mistake you think I have made that has had the biggest effect in my life?
A. Law school… duh! 😉
Ok seriously, I think most of your decisions are made with other people’s best interests in mind instead of your own. As a result you’re always trying to do stuff that makes other people happy. Wish there was one instance in particular but there have been too many to pin down (you know that!). Which brings me to your next question…
Q. What’s the one thing about me that makes your really proud of me, presuming there is one?
A. I cannot even begin to tell you just how proud it makes me to see you rediscover yourself, the girl I knew back in college with a head full of dreams to make it big in life, with a passion to achieve great things.
The last few years have been difficult, having to deal with the responsibilities that circumstances forced on you and a few wrong choices you might have made. Every time you spoke of wanting to settle for second best, it made me cringe because I knew that was not like you at all.
Today I see you getting out of your comfort zone to transform your dreams into reality and it makes me so proud! You’ve wanted this for so long and no one deserves it more than you do.
Q. What’s the one thing you really want for me or to happen to me?
A. A few years back I might have said I want you to meet someone wonderful who gets you, the essence of who you are. However as they say, one gets wiser with age. Neither of us needs someone to make us feel complete, we’re a little too good for that!
So to answer your question – I really want you to become the person you have always dreamed of being… The kickass professional who works for the betterment of society while fulfilling her inherent need to make a difference to the world at large instead of some sellout attorney like most batch mates we know have landed up being J.
Q. What’s the one thing you think I can change about myself and should?
A. Can I mention two things please?
One – I think you let people into your heart and life too easily. It doesn’t take much for you to trust someone and that is not really the best trait to possess, especially if it has serious repercussions on your life later on.
Two – You need to experiment with the joys of colours and fashion. There are too many pretty clothes and styles out there for you to be stuck with the staid and boring!
Q. What’s the one thing you think I should not change about myself ever?
A. Your unique brand of craziness. I have never met someone so intelligent and so crazy at the same time.
Q. What’s the one thing you’re happy to have found/achieved/learned through me – presuming there is one?
A. Women can ride motorcycles.
Sharing a chocolate dessert and catching up on life with a friend is more fun than dolling up and going out on a date (sometimes 😉
It takes a lot of balls to say ‘Get the F*$^ out of my life’ and mean it.
Living alone in a foreign land isn’t as romantic or fun as one might believe.
You can’t go wrong with a short black dress.
Q. What is the one thing you want for me and you in the next 12 months?
A. A dream vacation exploring the splendors of Europe together, replete with holiday romances, bouts of alcoholism and a visit to the Louvre.